A new book from Tactical 16 Publishing, a veteran-owned and operated firm, aims to provide men navigating the challenging terrain of divorce with a candid and empathetic guide. Written by Corey Gray, “Grow a Mustache and Survive Divorce: An Angry Ex-Husband’s Road To Recovery” draws upon his personal experiences and professional expertise to offer a practical roadmap for emotional healing, personal growth, and rebuilding life after marital dissolution.
A Personal and Professional Look at Divorce
Corey Gray, the author, opens “Grow a Mustache and Survive Divorce” with a personal snapshot into his own journey through divorce, immediately establishing a relatable and authentic voice. As a Licensed Professional Counselor and owner of Care Heal Ease Therapy LLC, Gray brings both lived experience and clinical insight to the subject matter, setting the stage for a guide rooted in understanding and practical advice.
As an Army Veteran who served from 2001 to 2006 with a significant deployment during Operation Iraqi Freedom, he has not only a deep sense of duty and resilience but also invaluable insights into the struggles faced by individuals returning from high-stress environments. Corey’s unique perspective in his counseling work, helping clients to process trauma and develop coping strategies based on empathy and understanding, is put to work in this book to help his readers.
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(Corey Gray, Author of “Grow a Mustache and Survive… Divorce”)
Navigating the Initial Disorientation
The book begins by addressing the initial shock and confusion of divorce, where it explores how past relationship models, often learned from childhood, can influence adult partnerships and their eventual breakdown. It emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, urging readers to learn from past experiences rather than dwelling on blame, and highlighting the crucial roles of self-forgiveness and personal growth in moving forward.
Gray pulls no punches in acknowledging the painful reality of divorce. Drawing from his own difficult experience, he stresses the importance of self-advocacy during the process, balancing personal needs with fairness, particularly in co-parenting scenarios. Practical advice on seeking legal counsel, managing shared possessions, building a vital support system, prioritizing self-care, and engaging in therapy are key takeaways. He employs the analogy of a ball in a box to illustrate the gradual and sometimes frustrating process of grieving and healing.
Building a Crucial Support Network and Finding a Purpose
This book tackles the often-isolating experience of losing friends during divorce. Gray candidly shares his own realization of who his true allies were, distinguishing between those who offered unwavering support and those who succumbed to misinformation. He outlines a strategic approach to leveraging a support system, identifying three distinct types of friend groups – the “Move On” group, the “You’ll Both Be Better” group, and the “F**k That B***h” group – and stressing the importance of open communication with each.
Drawing inspiration from Senator John F. Kennedy’s emphasis on purpose, the book inspects the transformative power of finding new meaning outside of a familiar routine. Gray recounts his personal experience finding purpose and community through the charity Mustaches 4 Kids after his divorce, encouraging readers to seek out activities and hobbies that bring joy and fulfillment as a vital reprieve.
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Coping with Shifting Family Dynamics
“Losing a Family,” a touching chapter, addresses the often-unexpected changes in familial relationships that accompany divorce, particularly the potential dissolution of ties with in-laws. Gray offers practical strategies for navigating these complex dynamics, including categorizing relationships and establishing clear boundaries to minimize negativity and proactively maintain important connections, especially for the sake of children.
Maintaining Stability Through Work
Gray’s work also highlights the often-underestimated role of work as a lifeline during the chaos of divorce. Gray emphasizes the stability and sense of self-worth that a consistent work routine can provide during an overwhelming time, encouraging readers to find value in their professional responsibilities even when personal life feels fractured.
The overall theme of this title promises a comprehensive and candid guide for men navigating the multifaceted challenges of divorce, blending personal wisdom and professional guidance aimed at helping men not just survive, but ultimately thrive after marital breakdown.
“Grow a Mustache and Survive Divorce” by Corey Gray will be available from Tactical 16 Publishing through major online retailers and at www.t16books.com soon.
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Disclaimer: This article and the referenced book provide general information on the health risks associated with divorce and offer guidance for men navigating this experience. They are not a substitute for professional medical, legal, or psychological advice. Readers experiencing health or emotional issues related to divorce should consult qualified healthcare or mental health professionals for personalized support.
