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Being a parent is a rollercoaster ride of good, bad and in-between.
According to many parents and guardians, sending a child to college is one of the most exciting yet emotionally troubling experiences a mother or father can go through.
“The emotions at drop-off and in the days afterward run the gamut,” said a Boston mom of four sons who has sent her children to college, Mary Anne Donaghey, in an interview with Fox News Digital.
“It’s overwhelming,” she added. “You feel anxiety, loss, and incredible pride – all at the same time.”
Last October, the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 61.8% of high school graduates ages 16 to 24 have entered college in 2021.
If this report is correct this year, it is many mothers and fathers who hug their children and say goodbye to different emotions when their children start a new chapter of their lives in university training and a new chance of growth and independence .
So here are some wise survival guides for parents who said goodbye to their kids this year (from those who actually experienced it).
Refrain from Regular Connection
“Many parents ‘come to college’ with their freshmen via technology, talking and texting throughout the day about every class, meeting, and assignment,” Boston University’s Sargent College associate clinical professor, Dory Hutchinson, said.
“You want to promote independence in your kid, and this is part of what college is about – developing this independent life,” Hutchinson added.
“Resist texting and telephoning [the student] every day,” she recommended. “It’s a hard thing to do if you’re not used to it. Try to do it every couple of days, at least in the beginning.”
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Urge the Children to Use Campus Facilities in College (Do Not Do it for Them)
“Behavioral scientists believe that ‘helicopter parenting’ interferes with normal developmental experiences that allow children to build their own problem-solving skills and competence,” stated the head of the University of Arizona’s Department of Communication, Chris Segrin.
To note, helicopter parenting a college student “restricts those learning experiences.” According to him, parents tend to “dispatch their wisdom” taken from their own encounters to “solve too many of their children’s problems.”
Learn to Support Your College Kid Differently
Don’t be too strict when handling your child and let him fly by himself – this doesn’t mean you love your child less. Instead, according to experts, it could mean giving one’s love in a different way that makes them grow.
Ahead of letting them go to the college world, urge them to own responsibility for tasks, says Karen Levin Coburn, senior consultant at Washington University in Saint Louis, Missouri. This includes checking their medical and dental appointments and taking over their finances.
In addition, tasks like washing their own clothes and taking care of their car’s gasoline should be a routine ahead of their departure to college.
Let Them Know You’re Still There If They Need You
Keeping your emotions stable in saying goodbye is harder than the practical factors, according to many parents.
“My husband and I got into the car without frozen smiles… I didn’t just cry, I sobbed when we were far enough down the road,” said Donaghey, a mom from Boston.
Let the child feel that whatever path they are taking, you are backing them up.
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